Question: My sister is turning in to a bridesmaidzilla. She’s insisting I invite fiver of her friends even though I don’t know them, and that I pay for her hair and makeup. My budget is limited, but should I try to appease her to keep the peace?
Answer: No!! There is obviously something more going on here, and I have a slight feeling that nothing you will do will make her happy. You are not obligated to invite five people you don’t know to your wedding, nor should you pay for her hair and makeup if you can’t afford it. She needs to be reminded that this is your wedding, not hers. She may resent all of the attention you’re getting or even that you’re getting married and she’s not.
My best advice would be to ask her to join you for lunch, dinner or a day of shopping. Don’t talk about your wedding plans initially. Ask whets going on with her life and what she’s been up to. Keep the conversation just all about her, don’t let her know that you’re hurt by her behavior hoping she would be happy for you and she would be your biggest supporter. Remind her that her day will come, too, and when it does you’ll be right there for her. She should respect that you are on a budget. Ask her if there is something troubling her and what you can do to help. Hopefully if you reach our to her in a kind, loving way she will respond accordingly.
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